Of ‘manly-men’ & douche-bags (2015 update)

If only I had a cent for every time I thought exactly the same…


An obvious ‘super-man‘ is not a real one. A true one keeps his deepest powers (aka the best character traits and mannerism) hidden so that when a special someone witnesses the employ of said ‘powers’, they come as a great surprise and a pleasingly shocky encounter. The element of surprise is important, as it shows one has some aces up their sleeves. Ergo that one is multi-sided. Getting to know everything about a person in too short a time means that such a person is simply too limited. That there’s nothing hidden and no ‘super-powers‘ are involved.

The thrill of continuous discovery of new and exciting details about a multi-sided person is essential to keeping a relationship fresh. Never knowing what ‘super-powers’ an individual may reveal at a certain point makes it worth spending time with them. While believing yourself a ‘super-man’ or looking for a ‘super-man’ is pointless and should be avoided at all costs.

Looking for a self-evident ‘super-man‘ is wanting too much to be revealed in an instant, apart from proving that you’re such a superficial human being. Pay more attention to the occasional Clark-Kent-y-kind-of-guy and something beautiful may happen. Don’t chase the type of men who keep bragging around all day about them being “men”, “manly-men” or ‘super-men’. They usually choose to parade their steroid-y muscles and show no signs of being more than punch-bags. Or punch-givers. A man who shows off as a “man” is the very opposite of actually being one.

What you are cannot be revealed just upon taking a quick look at you. Unless you’re a ‘manly-man‘. Then it’s pretty much a no-brainer. But with the rest of us, it can’t be all that simple. Normally you cannot tell if somebody has some sort of hidden ‘super-powers’ or not. Clark Kent shows no obvious signs of being a ‘super-man’, yet he is one. ‘The one’. So the guy next door may be more than he lets out to be. He may be a completely boring nerd, that’s true, but you cannot know that unless you go and literally investigate a little…


2015 update: I realized I’m a total mess at presenting myself to others, especially to women. I should’ve known that, I ought to have done something about it, but I’m sooo Clark Kent-y: I have many powers (I don’t know if they’re super, but still, good enough) but I lack the charm to present myself like…I dunno…not Clark Kent. Some dumb stuff, really, it’s like I’m Clark Kent pretending to be Clint Eastwood. It’s just wrong. Yeah, it would be completely awesome if people would see past the Clark Kent without any help from me or from others, but unfortunatelly it doesn’t happen often, let’s be realistic, for God’s sake. My Kryptonite, my weakest point, my doom, is my lack of any ability to hold a discourse about me which attracts people. It seldom works and it’s mostly a mess where people think that I’m bragging about myself instead of being modest, like they’d rather I was.

The thing is that I am actually a modest soul, but my stupid brains can’t understand how can you present yourself briefly without bragging about this and that. In my youth I was very shy, now I’m mostly cured of this plague but I have another problem, namely I kinda talk too loud and too much! I want to say too much in too short a time. A bummer! I’ll need to change something. I still want to be a sort of Clark Kent, I don’t think the opposite would suit me, but an improved sort of Clark Kent would do nicely!

I want to write and to advertise my writting, but I seem to fail at this as well. I either advertise too much or too little. Something has to be done, ’cause I can’t possibly keep coming up with new stuff without an audience. I’ve received some great reviews as of late and those are sure to help, but still, I can’t enjoy them properly because in fact I’m too modest to do it. A shattering paradox, a modest bragger! Who has heard about something like this? Well, hear now, hear ye!

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Sharp dressed man…oh, if only! (listen)

So, for a change, try and pay some attention to the Clark Kent near you, dear women! It may surprise you how similar to the actual comic book character he might prove to be! And by the way, that dog’s face is my face when I think about this whole mess…even though as I keep writing and saying over and over again, I’m genuinely happy on many other levels.



Stop being sad & be awesome instead!



“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself dissapears.” Marc Aurelius

Each of us has his or her reasons for being sad. Sometimes. But there are people who are sad most of the time. To a certain degree, again, sometimes, it’s understandable, but being in a continuous state of self pity ain’t gonna help nobody. Neither the person in cause nor his friends & family. Emotions such as sadness, sorrow, lack of self worth, hopelessness, melancholia, gloominess, heavyheartedness, depression → they are all connected. Apart of being quite synonymic in nature. But it is we who connect them, who allow it to happen. I’m not saying that there are no sad things in the world or that you’re supposed to laugh at your mother’s funeral. Which is actually not that bad an idea if she was really old and helpless, you know? You could laugh ’cause it all ended for her, that she’s free. You could feel happy for her. There’s no reason for you to feel abandoned anymore, ’cause if your mother was old enough, so are you. Get real!

Anyhow, that is difficult, I understand. But you should try and see the glass as half full, not half empty. The truth is that the glass may even be completely empty, for some, at some point, but glasses can be filled & if broken, new ones can be bought. You could even make one of your own with your own two hands, just like I sad in the previous post from today; you could if you had the willpower. It doesn’t take geniuses to blow into a bell glass through a blowpipe and create a new, self-customized glass. It actually never takes geniuses to do anything. It takes willpower. A will-less genius would not be able to invent anything, while a strong-willed but rather common individual with no apparent brilliantness can invent a lot of stuff, if only he or she put his or her brains to work.

Happiness is a strange concept. One could say that it doesn’t exist. One could say that it’s too damn difficult to reach and even more difficult to maintain it as a continuous state of happiness. But I’m not using the word like some do, like it was some kind of idealistic and too close to perfection state of being. That does not exist, indeed it doesn’t, a life in which everything is perfect and you’re so happy that you could explode. Or implode. But as I previously said in my post about perfection, an achievable perfection exists, as well as an achievable happiness. And a pretty constant one at that, mind you! It’s difficult to keep seeing the glass half full all the time, I realize, but it can be done. Lesser people than me managed it.

What does achievable perfection mean? Well, most of those really impressive buildings around the globe we see and admire are perfect designs. Perfect by design. Completely mathematical. They are not indestructible or forever lasting, but with care and a little bit of luck, a Gothic cathedral such as the one I simply love, the one in Strasbourg, le Cathédrale Notre-Dame de Strasbourg/ Straßburg Münster, can survive intact even more than some of the most impressive skyscrapers out there. It is perfect in nature, as much as the Pyramids are or as the natural world is. The natural world is not indestructible, we all know that, but in many ways it is perfection incarnated. Such as your body is. It may get sick, but it is so complex that you’d barely be able to call it anything else than perfect. That is why I strongly believe in an achievable perfection, ’cause we live in such a complex but still manageable world and have so amazing bodies. If these can be managed, then that achievable perfection could indeed exist, be reached, be maintained. Be part of our lives. So, if that can really be reached, why shouldn’t we step in an achievable constant state of happiness? I’m not talking about religious stuff or anything like that. I’m talking about down-to-earth, no nonsense happiness, not preaches, dreams, philosophical or psychological stuff. I hate that. I’m not talking like that. I have not studied such nonsense & I don’t intend to! What I’m saying is “enjoy the little things in life and you’ll see the bigger picture!” ⇒⇓


“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.’
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.” Chinese Proverb

Metallica’s Nothing Else Matters sums it all up pretty good as well:

So close no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trust in who we are
And nothing else matters

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don’t just say
And nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

All that I’ve previously said applies to relationships as well: if one is not happy while being by itself, single, one cannot hope to become happy because of someone else. In fact, the unhappy partner could even bring down the spirits of the happy partner and who’d want that? If you don’t feel happy enough, if you’re insecure and not able to distinguish your qualities from your faults, then don’t get in relationships! Period. Get yourself and your life straight first and only then go chasing skirts (if you’re a man; I’m not encouraging women to do the same, if ya’ know what I mean). It takes two happy enough people to maintain an equilibrated relationship. If one falls into depression at some point than, yeah, then it is ok to raise their spirits. But not for one to enter a relationship with the hope of being ‘transformed’. It don’t work like that, no siree!

About getting your life straight: “It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.” Lucille Ball «» Yeah, figure it out how to be happy and then jump for joy, jump into relationships, jump all over…just don’t jump off a cliff, as you’d have done in your previous unhappy, almost suicidal state! :))

I’ve got my own reasons to be sad. I’ve had a lot in the past and right now I can think of a couple. But fuck them! I’m learning French & it feels like the best thing I could do; I’m trying to develop my writing skills in English and it feels satisfying; I’m spending some time doing something I’ll not talk about here, but which feels even better. See, I’m happy because of as few as these three reasons alone! In fact, I could think of more, ’cause of course, they exist.

In order to be able to see the better things in life, listen to Vivaldi’s Seasons. It is  so refreshing and it’s like the composer’s trying to say something to his audience without using words. If you can’t hear his message right now, repeat the process over the course of time and maybe you will. I know that you will!

For Romanian language speakers, listen to this.

Life’s great, enjoy it like Bobby McFerrin!





For a change, try to do things yourselves!


You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they could and should do for themselves.  – Abraham Lincoln

I can understand the need to ask for help. In fact, more often than not, I am happy to help. And of course, I too ask for help from time to time. But I can’t embrace the fact that some people just ask for help simply too often. It’s like all they do is complain they don’t know to do that, can’t do the other…One can’t possibly get past being a novice if all one does is ask for help, constantly, daily, incessantly . People, just try & do certain things by yourselves. In time you’ll get it right, eventually. I doesn’t matter if at first you make mistakes, it’s only natural. But we as human beings posses the ability to learn from repetition, that much is sure. Don’t worry, nothing catastrophic will happen. Life ain’t as Chief Vitalstatistix from Asterix & Obelix thinks, when he says that: The sky may fall on your head tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. In fact, tomorrow will come and after multiple attempts anyone can get to the point where one stops asking for help in accomplishing a certain task. Just try it, the sky won’t drop on your head if you try to learn to do something by yourself. And if you’re careful enough, you will manage not to set your house on fire, I’m tellin’ ya’.

Life is a game, so play it already and stop being afraid of failing!

“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.” Abraham Lincoln

I’m just saying this; I’m not in the least angry, but disappointed. I wish people were more intrepid, more curious & more self-reliable. More lionhearted. And of course, that people put more trust in themselves. We, as a species, are capable of so many things, if only we just got up and tried doing something new for a change. I’m disappointed alright by a lot of people, but still, I’m optimistic, my face does not look like this, fortunately: