If only I had a cent for every time I thought exactly the same…
An obvious ‘super-man‘ is not a real one. A true one keeps his deepest powers (aka the best character traits and mannerism) hidden so that when a special someone witnesses the employ of said ‘powers’, they come as a great surprise and a pleasingly shocky encounter. The element of surprise is important, as it shows one has some aces up their sleeves. Ergo that one is multi-sided. Getting to know everything about a person in too short a time means that such a person is simply too limited. That there’s nothing hidden and no ‘super-powers‘ are involved.
The thrill of continuous discovery of new and exciting details about a multi-sided person is essential to keeping a relationship fresh. Never knowing what ‘super-powers’ an individual may reveal at a certain point makes it worth spending time with them. While believing yourself a ‘super-man’ or looking for a ‘super-man’ is pointless and should be avoided at all costs.
Looking for a self-evident ‘super-man‘ is wanting too much to be revealed in an instant, apart from proving that you’re such a superficial human being. Pay more attention to the occasional Clark-Kent-y-kind-of-guy and something beautiful may happen. Don’t chase the type of men who keep bragging around all day about them being “men”, “manly-men” or ‘super-men’. They usually choose to parade their steroid-y muscles and show no signs of being more than punch-bags. Or punch-givers. A man who shows off as a “man” is the very opposite of actually being one.
What you are cannot be revealed just upon taking a quick look at you. Unless you’re a ‘manly-man‘. Then it’s pretty much a no-brainer. But with the rest of us, it can’t be all that simple. Normally you cannot tell if somebody has some sort of hidden ‘super-powers’ or not. Clark Kent shows no obvious signs of being a ‘super-man’, yet he is one. ‘The one’. So the guy next door may be more than he lets out to be. He may be a completely boring nerd, that’s true, but you cannot know that unless you go and literally investigate a little…
2015 update: I realized I’m a total mess at presenting myself to others, especially to women. I should’ve known that, I ought to have done something about it, but I’m sooo Clark Kent-y: I have many powers (I don’t know if they’re super, but still, good enough) but I lack the charm to present myself like…I dunno…not Clark Kent. Some dumb stuff, really, it’s like I’m Clark Kent pretending to be Clint Eastwood. It’s just wrong. Yeah, it would be completely awesome if people would see past the Clark Kent without any help from me or from others, but unfortunatelly it doesn’t happen often, let’s be realistic, for God’s sake. My Kryptonite, my weakest point, my doom, is my lack of any ability to hold a discourse about me which attracts people. It seldom works and it’s mostly a mess where people think that I’m bragging about myself instead of being modest, like they’d rather I was.
The thing is that I am actually a modest soul, but my stupid brains can’t understand how can you present yourself briefly without bragging about this and that. In my youth I was very shy, now I’m mostly cured of this plague but I have another problem, namely I kinda talk too loud and too much! I want to say too much in too short a time. A bummer! I’ll need to change something. I still want to be a sort of Clark Kent, I don’t think the opposite would suit me, but an improved sort of Clark Kent would do nicely!
I want to write and to advertise my writting, but I seem to fail at this as well. I either advertise too much or too little. Something has to be done, ’cause I can’t possibly keep coming up with new stuff without an audience. I’ve received some great reviews as of late and those are sure to help, but still, I can’t enjoy them properly because in fact I’m too modest to do it. A shattering paradox, a modest bragger! Who has heard about something like this? Well, hear now, hear ye!
Sharp dressed man…oh, if only! (listen)
So, for a change, try and pay some attention to the Clark Kent near you, dear women! It may surprise you how similar to the actual comic book character he might prove to be! And by the way, that dog’s face is my face when I think about this whole mess…even though as I keep writing and saying over and over again, I’m genuinely happy on many other levels.